Toxic Empathy: When Our Compassion Becomes Poisonous.

Deep in the rainforest, some of the most beautiful creatures can also be among the most dangerous.

Consider the poison dart frog.

Its colors are breathtaking. Brilliant yellows, electric blues, vibrant reds. To an unsuspecting child, that tiny frog might look harmless. Fascinating. Maybe even irresistible to touch.

But imagine an elder nearby who knows better. The elder recognizes the warning…

What looks attractive on the surface can carry consequences underneath.

I believe there is a powerful lesson here for educators…

Empathy in education is necessary. But too much empathy, can be toxic.

Empathy is one of the most important qualities an educator can possess.

We should care about our students. We should understand their stories. We should understand that some of our students come to school carrying burdens they never asked to carry.

Poverty.

Instability at home.

Learning gaps.

Knowing those things should influence how we support our students. But they should never determine what we believe our students are capable of!

Sometimes, in the name of support, we start expecting less from students.

We call it compassion, but we expect less.

We call it flexibility, but we remove the productive struggle students need in order to grow.

We call it equity, but quietly begin deciding which students we believe can handle challenging work…and which ones cannot.

Let me be clear, empathy is not the enemy. Low expectations disguised as empathy, are!

Some Students Need Us to Believe Even Harder.

Our students don’t need us to make everything easy. They need us to believe they can do hard things.

Support them. Scaffold the work. Stand beside them when they struggle. And celebrate them when they break through!

Most often, the students who have endured the hardest roads don’t need us to remove the mountain. They need someone who believes they have what it takes to climb it.

Are you human?

Every human has what it takes to battle through adversity. However, adversity always brings us to a moment of choice.

A moment when we choose to be a victim or a victor.

A moment when we choose to press forward or to remain still.

A moment when we choose to win or we choose to be defeated.

We ALL have to face adversity – MANY TIMES! Some of us will choose to “fight” and as a result, we become tougher. Some of us will choose to be pitiful, throw a pity party, feel sorry for ourselves, quit, and drown!

Some of us choose to drown. Drown in our own sorrow. Drown in our own tears. Drown in the same adversity that thousands of other humans chose to swim out of.

If you’re going through something, stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are human, and trust me – you can get through this. But only if you choose to!

 

Maurice Guest Jr., is an education administrator in Little Rock, Arkansas. Check him out on Instagram here.

The Laws of Physics and Your Beginning

The laws of physics make it impossible to have a brand new beginning. But, it is more than possible to create a brand new ending.

Opportunity comes to those who create it. Patience is a virtue, but don’t spend your entire career, your entire parenthood, your entire life – waiting for magic to happen. There is no magic.

There is only physics. Gravity, space, atoms, science.

Start where you are and use what you already have. Begin anew and create opportunity for you and your family.

God Bless.

Maurice Guest Jr., is an education administrator in Little Rock, Arkansas. For more tips and insight, follow him on Instagram @instagram.com/mauriceguestjr

Why Do We Hate?

We hate because we are taught to hate. We hate because we are ignorant. We are the product of ignorant people who have been taught an ignorant thing..

There is no gene for racism. There is no gene for bigotry. You’re not born a bigot, you have to learn to be a bigot. Anything you learn, you can unlearn. It’s time to unlearn our bigotry.

I’m an educator. And it’s my business as an educator to lead people out of ignorance – the ignorance of thinking you’re better or worse than someone else because of the amount of pigment in your skin.

-Jane Elliot | Educator, Diversity Expert

 

Maurice Guest Jr., is an education administrator in Little Rock, Arkansas. For more insight, follow him on Instagram @instagram.com/mauriceguestjr

From Dream to Reality – In Three Simple Steps.

Step 1: Dream Boldly and Without Fear!

Erase the fear of dreaming big. If your dream is big, audacious, and almost unbelievable – good! Own it! Don’t allow fear or an impoverished mindset derail or minimize your dream. Your dream is directly aligned with your purpose. And your purpose is blessed by the most high.

Step 2: Write it Down!

Transfer the dream from your mind to a piece of paper. Next, attach a date to your dream. A dream written down with a definite deadline becomes a goal. Next, break the goal down into small steps that can be taken daily. “Daily steps” create momentum, and momentum is just like magic! Momentum energizes us all and is a major factor in getting our goals accomplished!

Step 3: Show God You are Serious by Taking Action!

A goal supported with action is a goal supported by God. A goal supported by God, is a goal/dream that comes true.

“Do not be deceived, God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” – Galatians 6:7

In order for a harvest, we must first take the action of planting, cultivating, and nurturing our seed aka dream.

Dream big and take massive action!

 

Maurice Guest Jr., is an education administrator in Little Rock, Arkansas.

Note to Student #6: You Were Not Born to be Mediocre.

Student,

Don’t be like most of us. Most of us give up on our dreams. Most of us learn to accept defeat without putting up much of a fight. Most of us are cool with being average.

Dont be like us.

You are not here to be average. You are not here to merely survive. Student, you were not brought into this world to be mediocre.

You are here to achieve greatness.

Get to work. We need you to do the work that you were put on this planet to do. We need you to become who you are meant to become.

 

Maurice Guest Jr., is an education administrator in Little Rock, Arkansas.

The Bridge

There is a map.

And on this map are two points: Point A and Point B.

In between Point A and Point B, is a wide and treacherous river. This river is filled with alligators, crocodiles, snakes, piranhas, robbers, killers, thieves, drug dealers, triflin men, triflin women, fast men and fast women.

It’s our job and God given responsibility to cross this river!

We have to get from where we are right now – which is Point A, to where we are destined to reside – which is Point B!

But here’s the million dollar question:

How do we get from Point A to Point B, and how do we cross this river without falling prey to the predators that feed within it?

Answer: We need a bridge. And that bridge is referred to as self-discipline.

I challenge us all to start building our bridge today!

 

Maurice Guest Jr., is an education administrator in Little Rock, Arkansas.

Note to Student #4: $TEM

STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Math)

Student,

As of August 2016, half of all high-paying jobs in America require at least some computer coding knowledge or skill.

“High paying” is defined by an annual income of $60,000 or more. If terms like SQL, Python, and Javascript aren’t familiar to you, then half of all U.S. companies will not be interested in hiring you.

Just something you should think about the next time you’re chilling on social media, watching TV, or playing video games.

Why not teach yourself to code. Khan Academy has a free course and it’s the real deal. 

Your future matters. Learn.

 

Maurice Guest Jr., is an education administrator in Little Rock, Arkansas.